Places that scare us – This lousy world

On 30 May 2012 by Carolien Geurtsen

We don’t get, she says, that fear is our friend. Or that it’s “a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.” Instead, “we freak out when there’s even the merest hint of fear.” Which only makes our situation worse. And then everything falls apart — “we run out of options for escape.” 

One thing she says we do know:
“To stay with a broken heart, with a rumbling stomach, with the feeling of hopelessness and wanting to get revenge — that is the path of true awakening.”

Very Thich Nhat Hanh: Let this moment be your teacher. Or, in her words: “Spiritual practice is your life, twenty-four hours a day.”


Ik schrijf iedere woensdag een blog over een boek wat ik aan het lezen ben of heb gelezen. Voel je van harte uitgenodigd om daar op in te haken. Dit onder het kopje/tag #boekenwurmwoensdag en/of #bww. Je schrijft dan een stuk op je eigen blog over een boek, dat kan kort of lang zijn, een kreet, of  je favoriete ik ga op vakantie en neem mee top drie. Geeft een link daarvan in de comment onderaan mijn blog op woensdag.
Als je geen blog hebt, of het te veel gedoe vindt, kun je je leesvoorkeur ook gewoon in een reactie hieronder zetten. Leestips zijn namelijk altijd welkom! Ook al wil je maar één keer meedoen, voel je van harte welkom om aan te haken!
Vandaag in het Engels omdat ik het boek ook in het Engels heb gelezen. Ik weet niet wat er in de Nederlandse vertaling van overblijft.  Hier vindt je alles van boekenwurmwoensdag 

The places that scare you

The places that scare me

While I start writing I am still  listening to the most amazing concert I ever visited, namely Bruce Springsteen and the E street band on Pinkpop last Monday. I am slowly but surely connecting again with my intention of today, to make this week for me into a Pema Chodron theme week.
At 6 AM  I was enjoying the above teaching on YouTube, knowing that I would write my today’s blog about a book, but not yet which one, and I decided to do it about her book Places that Scare you, which I red once and will start reading again this week. I love the Boeddhist I know and I do love Pema very much.
Pema Chodron teaches  we always have a choice : “We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us and make us increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder. In the book Pema provides the tools to deal with the problems and difficulties that life throws our way. 
This wisdom is always available to us, she teaches, but we usually block it with habitual patterns rooted in fear.  Beyond that fear lies a state of openheartedness and tenderness.  This book teaches us how to awaken our basic goodness and connect with others, to accept ourselves and others complete with faults and imperfections, and to stay in the present moment by seeing through the strategies of ego that cause us to resist life as it is”.

This quote is not by myself but from GoodReads because I could not say it any better as they do.

I wish you and me a great week, I go for a morning teaching of Pema and daily music from Springsteen, Anouk and Mumford and Sons while washing the dishes and other things which need to be done whilst living.
Maybe see you tomorrow.

 Pema CHodron – Wiki | How we get hooked and how we get unhooked | GoodRead on Places that scare us |


Also from Pema is  Start Where You Are, A Guide to Compassionate Living

One evening Milarepa returned to his cave after gathering firewood, only to find it filled with demons. They were cooking his food, reading his books, sleeping in his bed. They had taken over the joint. He knew about nonduality of self and other, but he still didn’t quite know how to get these guys out of his cave. Even though he had the sense that they were just a projection of his own mind—all the unwanted parts of himself—he didn’t know how to get rid of them. So first he taught them the dharma. He sat on this seat that was higher than they were and said things to them about how we are all one. He talked about compassion and shunyata and how poison is medicine. Nothing happened. The demons were still there. Then he lost his patience and got angry and ran at them. They just laughed at him. Finally, he gave up and just sat down on the floor, saying, “I’m not going away and it looks like you’re not either, so let’s just live here together.” At that point, all of them left except one. Milarepa said, “Oh, this one is particularly vicious.” (We all know that one. Sometimes we have lots of them like that. Sometimes we feel that’s all we’ve got.) He didn’t know what to do, so he surrendered himself even further. He walked over and put himself right into the mouth of the demon and said, “Just eat me up if you want to.” Then that demon left too.”
― Pema Chödrön, Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living

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